How Can A Coach Help You Reach Your Goals?
Goals can be so darn hard to achieve, and even more so without a good plan! Read on to learn how working with a coach can support you as you successfully move toward the attainment of any goal you set!
Have you ever had a goal that you were not able to achieve? Me too! I used to think it was just because life was busy and I wasn’t organized enough, but I have learned that I just didn’t have a good enough plan, or often no plan at all. A few years ago I decided once and for all that I was going to stop yelling at my children. As luck would have it, I was doing Jen Sincero’s DIY Coaching Program at the exact moment When we came to the part in the program where we were to start a new habit, or stop an old one, I knew this was my moment! You see, I’m a good, loving mom, but I yelled too much and I knew that. I had set the goal many times to stop yelling and it would stick… for a while, until I would get really upset or my kids were really being jerks, and then what choice did I honestly have but to yell?! But this time, my desire to change the habit coincided with me having the resources to make a plan to meet this goal once and for all, and I’m proud to say that it has stuck, and two years later it is my normal way of being.
Back to our original question, How can a coach help you reach your goals? If you work with us to reach a goal, change a habit, or start a new habit, it will go a little something like this:
Step 1: We will talk about your why. This might be the most important, and most overlooked, part of any goal setting process. It is in this first, critical step that you identify why you want to achieve the goal. How will achieving this goal improve your life? How will it look and feel when you achieve the goal? This is so important because when you get to the place where you want to quit, or like me your kids are really jerks, it is this “why”, and the feelings and benefits associated with it, that will keep you motivated to stay the course and keep working towards your goal.
Step 2: Now that you have done the energy work to firmly root yourself in the success of reaching your goal, we will work together to create a step-by-step plan. Achieving a goal is a bit like climbing a mountain. As we stand at the base and look up, it can be so overwhelming that we can’t bring ourselves to start. However, just like with climbing a mountain, achieving a goal (no matter how big or small the goal) is done step-by-step. It is here that we can break up the path to your goal into bite-sized steps that feel both manageable and productive.
Step 3: At this point you have set a goal, defined your why, and have a plan, and you might think you are ready to start! However, there is another critical step- identify potential obstacles to meeting your goal and then think about what you will do to overcome those obstacles. As you are on the path to achieving your goal, there is a 100% chance that obstacles will come up, and if you do not have a plan in advance to overcome these obstacles, they could derail you. For example if your goal is to go to the gym every weekday morning, what will you do if you sleep poorly and are too tired to get up, or if the weather is bad? By identifying these potential challenges in advance you will be ready for them and know exactly what to do to stay on track to meet your goal.
Step 4: Celebrate Yourself! As you go step-by-step working towards your goal, make sure you celebrate yourself. When we start our journey towards a goal, or start with a new habit, there is usually a lot of excitement and those first days are made easier because they get swept up in that excitement. But as the days, weeks, and months go on and you are going (maybe slogging) through the steps to get to your goal, that excitement can start to wear off. One way to keep your enthusiasm for your goal, is to celebrate the steps along the way. When I had gone a week without yelling at my kids, I took us all out for ice cream to celebrate. You can decide ahead of time something you will do to reward yourself after you accomplish that first step (or micro-step), and then keep planning rewards for yourself as you accomplish the steps in your plan toward the ultimate reward of achieving your goal.
Now, what goal or new habit do you want to start working towards?